What We're About
Unique in the Northwest Suburbs, RelationshipWorks is dedicated to…you got it…relationships. We all know that when our relationships work, we feel better, we’re often healthier, we are more resilient in the face of challenges. We join you in the work to make your relationships work. More than just functioning better, our goal is bigger than that: we want greater love, connection, and – dare we say – joy in all of our lives!
Water and Sunshine
Relationships can be like a vegetable garden In the spring, I’m an enthusiastic gardener. I plan, I plant. I set up barriers to keep Flopsie, the wild bunny who lives in my yard, away from my lettuce. I water the garden. I savor those first days when the sun feels warm after a long, […]continue reading
A Different Perspective
I came across this poem today. Good food for thought on days when I think I’m right. Possible Answers to Prayer By Scott Cairns Your petitions—though they continue to bear just the one signature—have been duly recorded. Your anxieties—despite their constant, relatively narrow scope and inadvertent entertainment value—nonetheless serve to bring your person vividly to […]continue reading
Uncertain Times: Part 2: aka A Little Less of the “Mom” Face, Please.
The “mom” face. My sons have seen it all too often. It looks something like this woman’s expression: It’s a toxic mixture of anger, disbelief and negative assessment, sure to put everyone on edge. My sons would all too quick to confirm that I can be a nag: “Why do you wait until X O’Clock […]continue reading
Peace and Courage in Uncertain Times
As the world becomes an increasingly and randomly dangerous place, it would be easy to let fear drag me down. I send my sons off every day to a big, soft target called High School. Ted flew to LaGuardia Airport yesterday. I went to a class in Chicago over the weekend and walked thru the Christmas […]continue reading
How are you doing…really?
It’s a question a friend of mine taught me. Of course the trick in asking the question is waiting after you’ve said “really,” waiting to give the silence time to do it’s work and get to an answer deeper than “fine.” One of the things I like about the Bible is that it often tells […]continue reading
Turn self-doubt into affirmation of your unique contribution
I sat silently in a meeting recently, this mental chatter in my head: What am I doing here? I’m not good at big picture conceptualization like these people. It’s better if I don’t say anything. My best contribution is as scribe, writing down other people’s ideas on the whiteboard. If I had let this internal […]continue reading